Sonya and our friend Suleymanu are working their way through a Theological Education by Extension (TEE) booklet, which is talking about the Christian life. They are actually editing it for language (dialect) and cultural relativity.
One of the issues regarding the booklet is its references to sin. According to this TEE booklet, the major sins of most people tend to alcoholism and adultery. However, that is not borne out in the lives of the people group we are ministering among. According to Suleymanu, the prevailing sin among them is that of gossip.
That surprised me a little, but not overmuch. Gossip is not mentioned much in modern parlance, and we tend to relegate its importance with lesser sins, but the Bible puts it right up there among the very bad sins. As I was reading about what I would call the very first gossip, it occurred to me why this might be so.
It is maybe an open question of who the very first recorded gossip might be, but personally I think it is Noah’s son Ham. You may remember the story.
After the Flood, the only people are around are Noah, his wife, and his three sons and their wives. Once the ark had settled on terra firma once more, Noah, being “a man of the soil,” planted a vineyard, and drank some of its wine.
Possibly this was the first time Noah had drunk wine, for it got him drunk and he lay naked in his tent. His son Ham came into the tent and accidentally saw his naked father. Instead of covering him up and remaining mute on the subject, he went out and told his brothers. Shem and Japheth, the two brothers, then came in backwards with a sheet and covered their father. (The story can be found in Genesis 9.18-29.[1])
The nature of gossip is itself uncovered in this story.
Noah lays vulnerable before his son; he is unconscious of anything his son might do or say about him. Talking behind someone’s back is the same dynamic; they are unconscious of anything we might say or do to their reputation, and at that point are incapable of defending themselves.
It was not a sin for Ham to seen his father naked. I once by accident saw a man indisposed and uncovered, laid low by strong drink. It was through no fault of my own, and in that act I did nothing wrong. However, neither at that time, nor will I now, disclose the person’s identity.
The honourable thing for Ham to have done would have been to cover his father up and refrain from disclosing his nakedness and shame. In other words, he would have kept it to himself and not gossiped about his father to his brothers.
But gossip, of course, is exactly what Ham did. Who knows why? Possibly he was simply foolish, not thinking about what it was he was doing. Probably he did not consider the harm he was doing to his father, the damage that would be done to his reputation. The two other people whom Noah would most wish to be held in esteem, he was now abased before.
This is the nature of gossip. It takes a person at their most vulnerable – when they have done something less than creditable, and are not in a position to defend themselves – and displays their shame before the world. Often it will take a while before the gossip to find its way back to the object of the talk. In Noah’s case, when he found out he was justly angry, and he cursed his son.
The natural outcome of gossip is a curse; it can really be nothing else. For what good will have come from talk of such a maleficent nature, that seeks only to shame and tear down? Talk that builds up and edifies people when the object of the discussion is are not there is not gossip.
Gossip by its nature is destructive. It is no wonder it makes Paul’s list as being one of “every kind of wickedness” (Rom 1.29). In a culture that thrives on gossip as a titillating intramural sport, let us strive to keep it far from us.
[1] I am not unaware of the theory that understands that Ham had homosexual relations with his father, and that this was the nature of his sin. I am not convinced, however, that this was actually what was going on. For those interested, they can see NIDOTTE 3.529.